Despite having an understanding of the risks involved in
dating married men, finding has shown that many young
ladies still think it is far better than giving themselves to
single men especially when the latter are not yet ready
for marriage.
Most Nigerian ladies have, at one point or another, dated
married men.Some have continued to even maintain
double relationships where they date a married man and
keep their relationships with younger male -bachelors.
Many of the ladies who spoke with our correspondent
concerning the issue, said they feel more comfortable
dating married men than bachelors.
While some disclosed that the are dating married men
because of money, some said they engage in such
relationships because of the maturity and experience of
the men who already have wives at home.
However, apart from these two reasons, P.M.NEWS
spoke with two ladies who said they were dating married
men as revenge against their boyfriends.
Many of the ladies confessed that they had to stick with
married men because they have not found a man ready
to marry them.
Toyin Adedamola, a 36-year-old resident of Oshodi area
of Lagos, told our correspondent that dating a married
man “is not a big deal.”
“I am old enough to marry, but where I don’t find the right
man ready to put me in his house as his wife, should I just
remain like a prisoner?
“As I am now, I don’t mind being a second wife as long as I
am comfortable and respected like a wife by the man,” she
said.
Another respondent, who simply gave her name as
Jumoke, confirmed that she was dating a married man
but added that she was not ready to be a second wife.
“I am dating one married man and we have been together
for two years now. He is ready to marry me, but I am not
ready to be a second wife.
“Experience has taught me that being a second wife would
make you fight for your life till death. So I told him I can’t
be a second wife.
“I am only with him till I find the right person to marry me,”
she said.
A married woman, who refused to mention her name for
safety reasons, told our correspondent that it is
sometimes good to date a married man for experience.
“I dated a married man here in Ogun State before I got
married. I finally bade him bye two days to my wedding.
“I had a good time with him all through the period we dated.
I decided to date him so that I would know how best to
handle my husband.
“I felt it would also help me to monitor my husband’s
activities and keep him from women. The man was actually
encouraged to date a woman outside because his wife made
his home hell for him,” the pregnant 29-year-old woman
explained.
For Maureen, she dates a married man apart from two
regular boyfriends.
While the married man pays most of her bills, she keeps
the two boyfriends pending when any of them would
decide on marriage.
“I am getting to 30 years old and that is not funny. That’s
why I have the two guys. But for the married man, we both
know we don’t have a future together, but he pays my bills
and assists in other areas.
“I have been managing them. The married man knows I
have another person, but the two bachelors don’t know each
other or whether I have a married man,” she said.
For Eyitayo, dating a married man comes with risks, but
she believes that in life, everything possess their own
risks.
“There was this man I dated last year and his wife sent
people after me. I was beaten mercilessly and had to spend
three weeks in the hospital,” the 29-year-old petty trader
said.
She admitted that she learnt her lesson since the
mistake came from her.
“At a time, I couldn’t do anything without thinking of him.
Moreover, he was the one who rescued me and made me
self-dependent.
“I always called and chatted with him even though I knew it
was risky. That was how his wife knew and came after me.
“Though I have left the man, I am in another relationship
but this time, the man’s wife is not in Lagos. The man lives
alone and works here,”
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